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Love me, Don't lust me

Love me, don't lust me
Love me, don't possess me
Love me, don't object me

 Being with you, feel bliss
Being with you, no hurry
Even being naked, no worry
Being without me, feel free
Being without me, let me free
Even company other, enjoy freely

 Love me, know me
Love me, understand me
Even misunderstand, accept me

 Love me, mindlessly
Love me, like godly
Even in hate, love divinely

 Love me, don't lust me
Love me, don't possess me
Love me, don't object me

                                                     - Vishal Jain
Its a general situation develops between friendship of a boy and girl. Even friendship between boys and between girls, but especially between boy and girl. This may be due to attraction between opposite sex or feeling of possession develops in any one or both of them.

This happens among friendship of same sexes also. A girl is so possessed with another girl friend that she would not be allowed to move with any other friend or even chat. A boy may create problem if he finds his best buddy hanging out with another buddy either belongs to the same school, college or social group.

And in marriage , god save them. This feeling of possession is so deeply engraved among them that it is very difficult to explain the above mentioned lines. If we try to explain it, they come up with their version to prove this, a foolish verse.

Two lovers when they start loving each other , are very comfortable in their relationship. They feel as if they are on the moon and each and every sound of beloved rings a blissful bell in their ears. They are not able to listen any other sound. The image of beloved is so engrossed in their eyes that, other than that image every other image is blurred or not visible at all.

Why this happens?

Because when you are in love , you love with your heart. And heart does not know any language created by mind. It knows only language of love, no discrimination, no caste, no color, nothing. It feels that the other one is God like or God or a new terrain where every thing is beautiful. The beloved is so perfect that any imperfection seems to be perfect because the love is through heart.

But after marriage, union or association, a feeling of possession creeps in , slowly or suddenly , whatsoever may be the case, this feeling automatically steps in their minds.

Why is this?

Because now the couple started thinking with their minds. And the property of mind is to discriminate , compare , ego-oriented and possessive. They started objectifying their beloved.
This needs to be understood. Once we create any subject into object , possession and lust starts. Before association , they were both subjects to each other and after association objectification of each other started. Lust started, possession started.
Both of them created a image of each other in their minds and try to replicate that image in them and when the other fails, tension starts and eventually all love goes down in drain. Only social association remains.

They find themselves in a union, which is totally opposite to what they both dream't off before association. This happens in most of the marriages, in love marriages, arrange marriages, live in relationships, friendships or in any relation where both partners become close. All couples must understand, Love through heart but not through mind.

If you read the above poem again, you will understand how a relation should exists between two partners.

Love me , don't lust me
Love me, don't possess me
Love me, don't object me

Don't make me object of lust, just love me and allow me to move around without any mental handcuffs. I also know, in any relation, what my boundaries are and if we really are in Love then any fear should not be there. Otherwise all Love,  would be lost and a feeling of slavery sets up in minds.

Being with you, feel bliss
Being with you, no hurry
Even being naked, no worry

I feel bliss when I am in your company. Whatsoever I do, you have no problem and I fly high in your presence. There is even no hurry to leave your presence and I feel always engaged with your blissful love. I feel no worry if I split out all my negativity, inside out, all my emotions which I feel, would not be comfortable with you. Or I can say if I become naked in front of you, even then there is no worry because I know that all my secrets would not be shared further.

Being without me, feel free
Being without me, let me free
Even company other, enjoy freely

If am not with you, you must feel free. You must smell my Love fragrance, feel my Love and enjoy every moment of life without any worry about my whereabouts, my schedule or my engagements. Live and let live. Even if you company with any other , enjoy freely without thinking that what I feel. 

Love me, know me
Love me, understand me
Even misunderstand, accept me

Love develops when two start knowing each other, understand each other and accept each other even in misunderstanding. For example, if I Love to play piano, I buy the perfect one as per my resources. After getting my Love, piano, I start knowing it, knowing each and every function of the piano. Then I start understanding each and every keys and how to play them and hence learnt playing piano. There are certain functions which initially I am not able to understand , so I accept them and continue learning piano. I am certain that in future I will understand them.

 Love me, mindlessly
Love me, like godly
Even in hate, love divinely

Love me, without using your mind but only heart. With mind you discriminate.
Love me, like you love god. Completely connected, surrendered, always talking with him.
If you hate me , then that hate should be divine.
In every person's life, a time comes when he/she start hating God or self or whatsoever you call. But still  in constant contact with God/self. I asked my beloved, even in hate, love divinely, keep regular contact with me, talk to me, don't put anything in you otherwise it would be difficult to remove that.
Love and hate are two corners of the same emotion or you can say two sides of the same coin. If you see clocks pendulum , it moves to one side and then moves back to another side with same intensity. Such are Love and Hate. The more you Love, the more you hate but then again falls back to Love. This goes on and on through out whole life.

Love me, don't lust me
Love me, don't possess me
Love me, don't object me
                                                  - Vishal Jain

Comments

  1. Neha ChhabraApril 5, 2020 at 12:30 AM

    Very nicely penned down.. a beautiful reminder that Love is a feeling of the heart, and the mind should mind it's own business..lol!
    Rightly said: we must subjectify, and never objectify in love.

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  2. UnknownApril 8, 2020 at 1:01 AM

    Wow nice poem and nice write. I really enjoyed this work of yours. I look forward to reading and enjoying more of your thoughts put to paper,sir.

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  3. ShivanjaliApril 8, 2020 at 2:29 AM

    Loved the profound explanation of relationships, difference of luv and lust,The journey of two people, aspects of the same coin. The poem is well writte and makes u ponder on the subject,lukin fwd for more posts

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  4. UnknownApril 11, 2020 at 10:03 PM

    Great thought and i loved it...the poem has deeply touched me!! And maximum people fail to realise this..and after reading this i have different perceptions....i hope people understand this and also implement....i m looking forward to more of ur blogs....

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  5. UnknownApril 13, 2020 at 1:15 AM

    Dear Vishal,
    Beautiful poem and explained thoroughly and perfectly the difference between love and lust. I have perceived it in different form.
    Love knows no bargaining,no rivalry and expects no return or award. Love is divine . Love is God. Lust flourish where we feel and treat other person as an object. The highest form of love is love for God /Supreme Being as it liberates . Universal love becomes possible only through the love of God.

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  6. Manjeet SinghApril 13, 2020 at 10:49 PM

    Beautiful poem Vishal ! I particularly loved the part where it says that both the partners form a mental image of the other, and this image has very limited boundary. Human being is a world within and is also evolving. When the other doesn't fit this mental image, the relationship goes for a toss.
    Keep it up dear ! Looking forward to more such poems from you.

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  7. Vishal jainApril 19, 2020 at 4:55 AM

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  8. Vishal jainApril 19, 2020 at 6:22 AM

    From Rishi bhardwaj
    My dear Vishal,

    What a beautiful way of expressing some of the intricacies of Love in a relationship. I admire your effort and courage to pen down in your own beautiful way to otherwise a very difficult subject "Love in a Relationship"

    As you said rightly, a true Love is not possession or putting any conditions on your partner. You must have heard the expression "Love is God" In other words when your Love is unconditional, you feel the God in it. Like a God you have to accept your partner with all its weaknesses and mistakes and go beyond the boundaries of just physical attraction or lust.

    Unless your admiration for your partner is more than just physical attraction, the relationship won't last long. For a true love, inner qualities such as mutual respect, utmost faith and yearning to devote yourself for the good of your partner, accepting it completely with its deformities and surrendering your ego at all times are some of the key factors that transform your normal physical attraction to a true love and ever lasting relationship.

    If you look closely all these qualities relate to a true devotee who is in the search for the God. A true devotee understands that in order for him to find God he needs to rise above the confines of a human love.

    Similarly, if you want to experience true love, feel the presence of the God in your partner and surrender your limitations of human love, love them like you want to see the God in them, be always ready to accept your partner in totality, including its good and bad qualities. Love them not just with your mind and heart but with your soul.

    I sincerely hope my humble thoughts would add some more meaning to your beautiful and well crafted poem.

    Your dear friend,

    Rishi Bhardwaj

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  9. Vishal jainApril 23, 2020 at 6:27 AM

    From gurjinder singh

    The poem is written very beautiful. Love and lust have been talked about. Love is depicted in a very beautiful way. when you are in love, everything feels beautiful , you love everything,either it’s good or bad , like or dislike , even some time right or wrong but love is always love .The poet has shown it very beautifully and I like it very much.

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